I received the following cry for help some time ago, and looking through previous articles today thought that the information might be helpful to someone else reading this blog.
"I have a very troubled teenage son! He’s always been a very emotional type of kid, he lacks self confidence and always needs reassurance.
He has been diagnosed as autistic and has gotten a lot worse since his girlfriend has dumped him without an explanation! Whenever he gets upset he smashes the walls in his room and the house generally. Can Feng Shui help?"
My response:
Our reflection determines how we see ourselves and impacts on our self esteem. When we see ourselves as chopped off, cut up or deformed in some way our sub-conscious takes in the message that we are not ok. This has a negative impact on how we perceive ourselves and adversely affects our experience of life.
Most households contain a variety of mirrors in many shapes and sizes, some functional, some decorative. Firstly I would look at every mirror and reflective surface and ensure it meets the criteria following;
It is extremely important that mirrors reflect the full head of anyone who will catch sight of themselves in that particular mirror. Tiled mirrors and mirrors that split our image including mirrors hung on a mirrored wall are not considered to be good Feng Shui. Aging Mirrors that have become cracked or cloudy are also poor Feng Shui.
One parent I know was experiencing difficulty with his teenage daughter who had taken to hanging out with a group the father was uncomfortable about the daughter associating with. He suspected that the daughter could be, or was about to partake in inappropriate behaviour or engage in unlawful activities. Knowing a little about Feng Shui the father decided to hang a full-length mirror with a very ostentatious frame on the inside of his daughters' wardrobe door. This became the mirror the daughter used to check her appearance prior to leaving the house.
Within 3 weeks the daughter started to take a greater interest in her appearance, and interestingly she was also changing out her circle of friends and associates.
Another aspect to look at is the condition and the position of your sons bed and any seating that he uses. The beds we sleep in and the chairs we sit in are the two most important items of furniture we have. They should be comfortable and suitable for the individual inhibiting them, saggy mattresses and broken chairs are not good Feng Shui. It’s also important to look at the history of the items. What memories, feelings and associations do they hold? Have they got connections to people, places and events that are less than excellent? If possible move on items that have less than excellent vibes, otherwise find some way to invigorate them with fresh new energy. A throw, new covers, fresh linens. Whatever you situation, find what it is, you can do.
Avoid placing beds under windows or against walls with water or electrical appliances on the other side. Whenever possible place yourself and your son in the power position, that is where you have a wall behind you and a view of every door and window. For over 3000 years we have been concerned about protecting our backs, suddenly in the last 50 it’s not such a big deal? Instinctively we want to feel that no-one can sneak up on us from behind and surprise us.
I once found a rear vision mirror attached to a workbench in an Auto Electricians workshop. Intuitively this employee had increased his personal security. The employee's workbench was facing a wall and into the corner, his back was exposed and vulnerable. The rear vision mirror enabled him to increase his sense of comfort and security. He had strategically placed the mirror so that he was able to glance into it to see what is happening behind him without having to twist and contort his body.
Next I’d take a look at your son’s bedroom. Does it contain any water, such as a fish tank? Is it lots of black and dark colours? Does it have a swampy feel?
If so somehow introduce more yellow, crème, or mid range browns (think of the colour of milk chocolate). Squares and clay/porcelain objects would also help to improve the rooms energy. This will help to provide a sense of grounding and connectedness for your child.
Choose sheets that are crème or mid range browns (think skin tones)
Avoid lots of bright primary colours. Remove electronic equipment and other stimulating items (exercise equipment, books, desk and study items) from the bedroom. If this is not possible unplug and cover them at night.
Ideally mirrors would not be present in bedrooms as they activate energy. If they are not able to be removed, cover them at night. Consider reversing doors of the sliding variety so the mirror side is no longer reflecting the room.
I'd also suggest you identify the Knowledge and Self Cultivation area of his room and of your home. This is the NE sector. This is a really bad spot for alcohol (and drugs or other substances used for abuse).
Somehow introduce anything that symbolically brings in the energy of "Still Mountain" (not a volcano is one capped in ice) or 8 to this corner of his room and the whole house. The earth I spoke of above is especially good in this area and the centre of the home.
